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I get how people should refrain from commenting on people’s bodies when it comes to weight - and how, for some, even hearing something like “You look great & like you’ve lost weight” can be triggering.
However, if Jen truly wanted to be relatable & connect w/ her followers, she could have phrased what she said in a much better way & came across much more genuine & friendly.
Something like -
“Thank you! You’re so kind, & I appreciate the encouraging words. Honestly, though, I try really hard to not focus on my weight & hope it’s not the first thing anyone notices about me… after years of body image issues, even hearing something like “have you lost weight?” can me feel anxious… isn’t it crazy the weird way we can internalize words? [laughing emoticon] But, seriously, though, I do feel really good right now & I love that you can recognize that in me. That means a lot!”
And, instead of being a snippy “do better” lecture, it gets the point across in a gentle way, non-confrontational way & also explains why in a relatable way & puts the issue w/ Jen instead of w/ the commenter who, at face-value, didn’t mean anything harmful & was just trying to be nice.
Jen likes to SAY she’s real & genuine when, in actuality, she never is & is, instead, passive-aggressive & condescending. And, in order to make friends & keep friends, you need to able to be real w/ others. -
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I mean, seriously!!!
Who the F does she think is… spouting all kinds of nonsense about putting kindness into the world & holding love for everyone in the whole world in her heart, blah, blah, blah…
And, THEN, when someone says something nice & kind to her, she spouts off like that?!
If I were that Patreon, I’d nope right out. -
.She doesn’t keep track? Um, sure Jenbo.
Never stops photoshopping, says she doesn’t own scales but then we see them in the background, is happy to be “soft”.
Shut the fuck up!
It’s truly shocking that she has zero friends 😂
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Dang.
Let’s give it up for Reason #637 why Jen doesn’t have any friends.
And, I say this kindly w/ love - if someone wants to comment & tell me I look great, that’s absolutely fine!
Edited by SmoothiesLikeLily - 11/7/2023, 01:32 AM -
.The bracelet is just like the spork all over again; anytime someone shows her the smallest kindness, she latches on to it with every fiber of her being and obsesses over it. That’s how lonely & desperate she is. Now, she’s going to make bracelets to give out at other fun runs? IF she does, it just goes to show how she’s more invested in total strangers as opposed to her own Circumstances.
Also, I wouldn’t go say HI to her after what she said about the TWO! people that greeted her. She’s such an asshole & a shit person.
That is a really good point.
Has she EVER made anything for her own 2 children (besides sewing the blanket-thing onto Bunsie)?
Has she EVER gone out of her way to do anything fun and/or cute for own 2 children?
Here’s a tip, Jen -
Take that “kindness” energy & spend a little time making your children’s home welcoming & cozy.
I bet CC would LOVE a bracelet from her mom - or better yet, spend an afternoon together making friendship bracelets.
Don’t wait to the last minute to order their Advent Calendars this year.
Take some pics of your kids & display them some place besides the guest powder room.
Remember how you used to decorate seasonally & go all out? Do that same thing NOW that you have 2 children who would really enjoy it.
Edited by SmoothiesLikeLily - 11/7/2023, 01:12 AM -
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Going back to one of the “Shuffle” Photos from earlier this morning -
Jen totally should have tried to hook-up w/ the guy behind her.
He’s also fist-pumping #LikeJen.
He’s also slightly overweight #LikeJen.
He’s also wearing Alice in Wonderland #LikeJen.
Aaaannnddd, he has tattoos #LikeJen CLAIMS she wants.
However, he has facial hair which might be triggering for someone #LikeJen. -
.So, when we think something is off or weird about Jen, I like to consider if, perhaps, I know of or have seen anything like it.
I did not see a single kid in a onesie last night. Young, old or otherwise.
Not to Jen-fend, but I did see a lot of onesie costumes last night, & we were in a really large, highly popular for trick-or-treating neighborhood.
There was a trio of girls in animal onesies w/ large, homemade “TY Beanie Baby” tags attached (really cute costumes!), & I saw one guy in a Perry the Platypus onesie. And I saw a girl in a shark onesie.
That said, the ones I saw wearing onesies were older kids, & I think they wear the onesies ironically & specifically to be funny, if that makes sense.
I don’t remember seeing any younger kids in onesies. -
Let's Chat | I'm Fat. But it's fine. I'm fine. It's totally fine-Part 426 - With Wonder - Jennifer Ross.
Here’s thing (& I know I’ve said it before) -
Who is Jen actually talking about when she says, “I’m holding you in my heart.”
Her Patreons?
To genuinely hold someone in your heart, don’t you need to at least know a little about the person?
I doubt Jen even knows all her Patreon members’ names, much less anything real about any of them. She has NO CLUE about anything that’s going on in any of her Patreon members’ lives. (She can’t even really tell you anything about her own children, much less anything about any of her Patreon members.)
And, if Jen is trying to claim that she’s holding all of humanity in her heart, that’s just performative BS.
Jen is so absolutely focused on herself 24/7, she knows nothing about humanity.
And, no matter what she says, Jen is completely non-bothered w/ humanity unless it directly affects her.
Edited by SmoothiesLikeLily - 10/28/2023, 12:07 AM -
Let's Chat | I'm Fat. But it's fine. I'm fine. It's totally fine-Part 426 - With Wonder - Jennifer Ross.
I know a girl who had bunion surgery at age 17. Her doctor advised that she needed to get her feet fixed before college, so that she could fully enjoy & participate in young adult college life.
Also, if you have so much trauma from jeans that you’ve decided you’ll probably never wear jeans again, if you have so much trauma from a weight scale that you removed it from your house, if you are pinching your stomach to see if there’s more to pinch today than there was yesterday… YOU HAVE NOT ACCEPTED YOUR BODY. -
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I hate her house so much.
For the love, get some lamps for some soft, accent lighting & stop w/ the bright overhead fluorescent lighting. -
.I'm at the point in my life where I'm like...if I get a gift, cool! If not, I'm not at all bothered.
Jen needs gifts so badly, she has to buy them for herself now that she has no Sweet Boy or any friends.
And, not only that, every time she buys her own kids gifts, she has to buy herself something -
If her kids get LEGO sets, she buys herself a bigger LEGO set.
If she buys her kids stuffed animals, she also buys herself a stuffed animal.
I mean, what kind of mother is so jealous of her own kids that she can’t let them have ANYTHING w/o also getting herself if not something even better/bigger at least something equivalent to what she got her kids?
It’s a sickness. -
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I’ve said this before, but it’s applicable again to her latest “Woe is me. My parents didn’t buy me a silly plastic cup when I was a little girl.”
Her parents are the same generation as & are just about the same age as my parents - early Baby Boomers.
Early Baby Boomers were raised by parents who lived through the Depression & were brought up to be very frugal & not waste money.
Jen’s parents are not special. Jen is not special for having the kind of parents she did. Jen’s childhood was not ruined by her parents.
Most of us within 10 years or so of Jen had the same kinds of parents w/ the same thoughts on money & frivolous stuff.
Growing up, my parents took my sister & I ONCE to Disney World & only to the Magic Kingdom. We stayed at a cheap Knights Inn in the outskirts of Orlando. I remember standing in the rain on Main Street to watch the Electric Parade while holding a drippy Mickey Ears ice cream bar. I don’t remember if we got any Disney souvenirs or if the trip itself was our only “treat.”
I don’t remember them ever paying extra for souvenir cups from anywhere - unless the cup automatically came w/ the drink, &, then, we kept the cup & it became part of our regular cups. (Anyone else remember the glass character cups you could get from places like McDonald’s?)
And, yes, our parents’ frugality is maybe part of the reason that we, collectively as parents, tend to be more indulgent w/ our own kids.
One of the last times we went to Disney World, we got the souvenir Orange Bird cups for our kids - totally silly purchase that ended up forgotten in the back of a cabinet. But, when we purchased the frivolous cups, I didn’t have a moment of self-pity where I thought to myself, “THIS is how I’m getting even w/ my parents! I’ll show them!”
Again, Jen is not special. Jen was not deprived as a child. Jen was just like almost every single other child growing up w/ early Baby Boomers for her parents.
Jen needs to grow up &, instead of thinking she’s doing such a good job as a parent because she buys her kids plastic junk, realize she needs to be concentrating more on how to make her kids more resilient & less afraid of everything.
And that there should be more to a child’s life than the plastic, fake Disney World. -
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Haven’t yet watched the video, but, just from the comments…
Oh. My. Gosh. She’s so weird & unnatural w/ her kids.
Regarding when she conceived Donny, I have 3 kids & have never really cared enough to do the math to determine when they were conceived… and, even if I did care enough, I wouldn’t be sharing it w/ everyone multiple times like it was something significant that needed to be noted.
(Oops. I take that back. I do know when 1 of our kids was conceived… too much celebration after a Halloween Party one night, but that’s just because this particular child was a bit of a surprise & we were like, “Wait. How did this happen?!” Lol)
Also, the fire alarm thing, 1 of our kids (not the surprise Halloween party baby) was deathly afraid of fire drills at school, & the teacher & we as parents were very sympathetic & worked together to help make fire drills less scary. But we didn’t excuse the child from participating in fire drills or being around fire alarms.
She’s ruining her kids & not teaching them any kind of coping skills. -
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Haven’t yet had a chance to watch her latest “comparative suffering” video that she released for her dear followers, & I maybe (probably!) shouldn’t watch it because it’ll most likely make me stabby.
However, in her Instagram stories she just posted regarding her personal victories, she says, “I’m cheering for you, friends.”
Bullsh!t.
Even IF (& that’s a big IF) she actually pays attention to any of the conversation/dialogue going in her comments sections of her various socials in which any of her dear followers post about any personal journeys or triumphs, she absolutely doesn’t remember or care at all about what’s going in any of their lives.
Jenions - Jen is NOT cheering for you at all. Ever. She barely registers your comments. She’s not thinking about you. No matter what you’ve “shared” w/ her & the rest of the community, she couldn’t tell any of you the first thing about any of you. And she’s definitely not holding your hearts. -
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The whole “it’s not easy human-ing” actually kinda disgusted me.
Human-ing, Jen? Seriously?!
“Human-ing” is such a dismissive, flippant understatement for what’s taking place in the Middle East. “Human-ing” is almost equivalent to the word “adulting,” & downgrades the situation to the same level as stuff like paying the bills or taking care of a sick kid.
I don’t think anyone personally affected by the horrors of everything that’s taking place is thinking, “Gosh, being a human is just so hard right now.”
What’s going on is not on the same level at all & absolutely nothing that Jen can even being to comprehend. Her small, self-centered brain can’t understand or truly empathize with anyone in any kind of real or actually sensitive way.
The ONLY reasons she posted anything are because (1) she heard something about something happening somewhere to some people from somewhere like Pantsuit Politics & figured maybe she needed to say something so she could sound wise & comforting & empathetic & (2) she may have seen some scary footage when she was scrolling through her socials.
Or maybe she saw the Israeli flag on her ex-husband’s new wife’s Facebook profile pic & couldn’t figure out why until she finally, for the first time in her life, made the connection between the Jewish people & Israel - because, prior to now, of course, she was caged & wasn’t aware of things like “beef comes from cows,” & “Jews are from Israel.”
And, oops, now Jen’s safe little cocoon has been compromised by yucky stuff, & everyone knows poor little fragile Jen can’t handle hard or upsetting.
And I really don’t think that anyone cares at all about Jen holding their hearts & her own heart & everyone’s hearts.
Edited by SmoothiesLikeLily - 10/12/2023, 02:59 AM -
.i still think the vegan thing was about getting the baby weight off, and not about the baby cows or whatever she was crying about. if that jen could see this jen now.
I totally agree with this. She was postpartum with Donny, and binge-watching vegan YouTubers and thought--easy peasy--I will give up meat and dairy and the weight will come off. What was especially sad was that in her crying for the baby cows video she actually looked really good. Her hair was still glossy from the pregnancy, and she didn't look like she was off track from getting her figure back, but there was no stopping her. She was obsessed with losing the baby weight and felt the only way to do that was to do something drastic like becoming plant-based/vegan. She jumped on that train and talked about how much she admired Smoothies with Lily (who was a nut job) because she was living a mostly raw vegan lifestyle. Lily was one of those delightful people who say that people who get cancer have invited it into their life by bad diet and bad karma. At this point in Jen's life, she was just starting to watch van lifers too.
She was insufferable because she held on to that plant-based persona for so long. She alienated Don but also made such a big deal out of eating vegan at Disney World with Don and the kids, and didn't seem to read the room that she was killing Don's love for her by being such a dog with a bone on the subject. She grabbed onto that new persona and was sure that she would never return to eating meat or dairy. When she finally started to eat some fish (nothing with a face!) she did it with guilt of knowing that her new persona was slipping away. I remember when she went to Italy and ate the schnitzel, and sat on the grass looking sick saying "I thought that was chicken, but now I think I actually ate pig". She looked like she wanted to cry and throw up. Now she is ordering a side of bacon with her cheesy potatoes and eggs and all pretense of being plant based has left.
Jen just has too much time on her hands to re-invent herself and navel gaze with ernest. If she worked like the rest of us poors, she would alleviate all of that self reflection, make some friends and acquaintances, and engage in activities that were not solely focused on all Jen all the time.
It doesn’t happen very often, so….
You rang?
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