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I respect Di as a somewhat private person so I don’t want to psychoanalyse too much. But I will say I can understand her loss and heartbreak. Her girls are at a fun age but they are definitely growing up.
The bigger issue, as she identified, is that she didn’t see her grief coming and neither of them really discussed it head-on. I suspect they’ll learn from that in their relationship. But I hope Di also reflects and processes her individual grief with others, including a professional if she can. She’s at such a crossroads in her life (given her new years video too) that there’s probably a lot of processing to do.
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My husband and I wanted to have 5 kids. We only were blessed with two. For the last several years (as we are getting older), we have had many discussions about him getting a vasectomy. Mainly due to the fact that we don’t want a whoops baby as our kids are entering their teen years. There is clearly some underlying issues in their marriage if they can’t seem to have honest discussions with each other. I personally don’t think you do anything major until both partners are completely comfortable with it.
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Oof. Both parents really need to be on board if there are going to be more kids. This kind of thing isn't something that is going to help other people. Reasons for not having more kids (or any) are so varied. You can work this out in couples therapy, not posting your side of the story to the internet.
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It's odd that they didn't talk about it more before hand. Why she did not tell him how she felt. She kept saying she didn't want to start an argument. Just seems odd.
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QUOTE (Leilani1414 @ 1/17/2022, 04:41 PM) It's odd that they didn't talk about it more before hand. Why she did not tell him how she felt. She kept saying she didn't want to start an argument. Just seems odd.
Ha, yeah the video Di made is basically like 'hot tip, talk about it before husband gets vascetomy'. Like no shit Di, thanks for that enlightenment. Really a very strange video to make, I think she just wanted to vent to a couple thousand people who would watch. She got a LOT of comments on that video, way more interaction than usual.
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I thought she was going to say he did it without her knowing, but no, she had a head's up. These two definitely need to work on communication.
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Well he obviously does not want more children and it should not be forced upon him. What’s odd is the girls will be 11 and 12 this year that’s a huge age difference. Let’s see if she got pregnant this year they would be 12 and 13 She mentioned in the comments that she feels her identity is wrapped up in motherhood. She still a mom whether she has more children or not.
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She's even posting that she's hoping it didn't work, that it can be reversed, or that they could do IVF. Di, you're a little late to the party here. Before the procedure was the time to voice your opinion. Does she really think Dan's going to change his mind now? She says they are talking through it, but yikes. Dan apparently didn't know she felt this strongly about it. I think she needs to get over the idea of motherhood being wrapped up in the baby years. If Dan does reverse it and they have a third (or more) how is he going to feel about it down the road?
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I don’t think she even really wanted another child. You would think that would have already been a discussion years ago. But from experience there’s a weird moment where never being able to have a child again makes you want one for a minute even when you really don’t.
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I think she is trying to hint that because they moved so much, they didn’t add a third when the girls were younger. But now they are finally established. Not sure. Also I deep dove into her Instagram last night trying to figure out how old she is (38) and found a picture she posted from 2014/2015ish. It is her around 3 at Disney with her sister who looks to be at least 10 years older than her. So this age gap is “normal” to her.
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What a cluster F. I feel for her, I really do. It sucks when that door shuts, for anyone, regardless of if they feel done with kids or not.
But based on her comments and responses to people below the video, it really sounds like she wants to force him into having another kid and I am like NoooOOOOoooOOOoo. It totes sounds like she's trying to bully him into a 3rd now. I hope he tells her to back off and doesn't cave into the pressure. I have a sad feeling that they are going to end up with a 3rd kid and he's going to resent the hell out of her for forcing it on him. Isn't he a little older than her? She's got to be pushing 40 now right? I would hate to have to start over at the baby stage with two pre-teens already.
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I have a feeling you're right, VCM. She is going to get her way come hell or high water, regardless of Dan's feelings on the matter. And FFS, the guy has been honest. She said she hoped the vasectomy wasn't going to happen because he rescheduled it a couple of times. Maybe he had to reschedule an elective surgery in a pandemic, or maybe he was nervous about the procedure itself. She didn't say anything except Dan didn't pick up on her hints. Well, you stop hinting when the guy says he's getting snipped. I mean, that's serious. You're not fucking around when you're getting a scalpel near the family jewels.
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QUOTE (Lucky_Me @ 1/18/2022, 09:00 PM) I have a feeling you're right, VCM. She is going to get her way come hell or high water, regardless of Dan's feelings on the matter. And FFS, the guy has been honest. She said she hoped the vasectomy wasn't going to happen because he rescheduled it a couple of times. Maybe he had to reschedule an elective surgery in a pandemic, or maybe he was nervous about the procedure itself. She didn't say anything except Dan didn't pick up on her hints. Well, you stop hinting when the guy says he's getting snipped. I mean, that's serious. You're not fucking around when you're getting a scalpel near the family jewels.
And in the comments she kept saying to people she hopes that his vasectomy didn't work. It's just such a shitty spot to be putting her husband in. I don't think she's in the wrong for her feelings of being upset and sad that a chapter has closed, but it sounds really shitty that she's hoping to convince him to get it reversed or hoping to get him on board with IVF. It kind of reminds me of their housing situation. He picked the house sight unseen to her and she hated it. And shortly after they moved. She gets what she wants and damn what anyone else thinks.
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I’m just curious what have they been doing for birth control before coming to this. Because of she was so hell bent on having a third, it could of happened before this.
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Ok so if you want another child and your husband is talking vasectomy that’s a very big difference . That’s when I would want to have a long sit down talk about it not casually hint at my feelings and hope for the best.
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