The Mills Family PT 6: Burnt hair, don't care. No clean jeans to wear, lots of sweets, no fresh meat. I've-no-time Tommy

There is no structure there at all. The kids just run wild doing what they want and taking care of their own needs best they can.

Can't believe that Asher gets told by Daddy that he can have a candy bar and a drink. At almost 17 he should have a part time job, buying his own clothes, washing his own clothes, and buying anything he wanted with his OWN money.

It makes me wonder how exactly those kids own money is managed? Asher used to have his own business mowing grass for neighbors and doing some landscaping stuff for them in Spring Summer and Fall. Andrea said that he loved doing that and maybe one day he could have a good business going. He had quite a few customers before she passed away. In Winter he shoveled snow for his customers. I wonder if all that stopped after Andrea passed because Asher was pretty much full time taking care of baby Hannah and all the little kids then. He was getting up at like 6am to do his school so it would be done before it was time to get the little kids up, fix their breakfast, brush their hair. And he took care of baby Hannah's food, diapers and everything else too. I bet the poor kid didn't have time to do his garden job anymore. So maybe he is stuck with the cents that Tom pays him for doing his chores. Asher still has to buy bread for the family out of whatever money he earns. Tom should be paying that kid a full salary for all he does in that home. Not giving him a few dollars for being a Mom and Dad to the four little kids, cleaning the house, helping with the little kids homeschool on the three days the Kitty is not there. He looks so think and so pale.

Hearing Tom tell him that he could get a drink and a candy bar made me want to cry for Asher.

MingMing22 Its so sad. From watching their videos and learning how they live, I don't think the kids see or know much about the real world at all. I'm going to make a post right after this one about two videos that my sister told me about which really shows just how much control there is over the kids lives. I didn't know those videos existed before. I was sick after I watched them. That is how disturbing they are.

Everything they do, and everything they ever did, is based at home. Home school and home church. Even when they take the weekly trip to the library Andrea was always right there with them. And now Tom stays with them, whenever he takes them. The only other places they go are to Kittys home, Papa Gary's home. or Andreas sisters homes. Even with youth group which I think they have been to only two or three times since they started going in the Fall this year, Tom stays right there all the time and the youth group sounds like sunday school. Tom even said that the older kids feel shy and awkward when they go there. I guess because they have never mixed with other kids who aren't family before.

How those kids will make it in the real world when they leave home and try to get jobs and live adult lives is the sad part. They don't seem to even know what happens in the real world because they have been shielded from it all their lives. They are gonna have a lot of problems in the years ahead when its time to live in the real world.

My heart goes out to the Mills kiddos as they were in lockdown before there was a lockdown.
Kiddos NEED structure in their life, especially the younger ones. Just like they need bed time routines,socializing with peers their own age (sorry Tommy boy cousins don't count)and healthy food (hey Tommy boy check out the web site My Plate.org, if you're not sure what healthy means.)
You could save a lot of time not looking for hottie babes till you have better personal hygiene, no UTI'S, a larger house that is clean, and more money in the bank.
Just sayin...

I just skimmed through a Live dinner from the 14th August, 2018 and actually very little has changed.

Tom scoffed down some pre-wrapped bought sandwich things and some crisps while everyone else, Andrea included, had ghoulash that she had made.

Solly didnt even attempt to eat his, neither did Sophia or Claudia or Justus. Claudia spilt her milk all over her tray and tried to clean it up herself because no-one noticed. Eventually, Andrea saw and she cleaned up the milk.

Tom, Asher and Judah each ate their own modest portions.

After a while, Andrea ate her own meal while the kids roamed free or coloured some drawings.

The older boys cleared the table, presumably throwing away all the wasted food while the parents talked to the camera.

They could have saved time and washing up if Andrea chucked the meal straight into the bin and let the kids continue playing on the various devices.

The video came up on my feed and I think it was good for me to see it because it showed me that, awful as Tom is, and he really is, he runs meals times in the same way as did Andrea and the food eaten by the kids seems to be no better now than previously. After all, if Andrea cooked a nutritious meal from scratch only for it to be left untouched, that's achieving nothing more than if Tom slings processed convenience food in front of the kids.

Asher is such a gentle soul. Handsome, responsible, caring young man. He needs his business back up and running, not care taker of his siblings. Andrea tried to prepare him the Christmas before she passed away. Set him up with everything he needs for his lawn care/snow plowing business to flourish. Why isn't his father encouraging him?

If Asher were to get busy with his customers, then Tom would lose his free babysitter. Oh I'm sorry let me give Tom the credit he deserves. Doesn't he pay those kids like a penny or a nickel a minute?