ForgetTheTownHallGottaSaveMyDollsLikeJen Pt. 222

I think one day he woke up and was like, “She doesn’t cook, she doesn’t clean, I’m not getting laid, she’s so uptight about everything, and there’s drama at every meal because of this vegan nonsense, so fuck this shit, what’s the point of being married?”, she called his bluff and expected that he would come around, he moved down to the basement and she thought she was just giving him his space, and when she went to Oregon he made his move when he could do it in peace.

Counseling wouldn’t have helped them anyway. She’s a narcissist who hates being a mother and she unilaterally took away the things he enjoyed most: meat and sex. He seemed like a lazy parent (only doing the “fun” things) and she seemed to overcomplicate parenting.

Unless she was going to be willing to loosen up a little, and he was going to be willing to be more accepting of who she had become (which wasn’t what he wanted), then all the counseling in the world wouldn’t help.

Sometimes people grow in different directions, and that’s okay. I’m of the belief that life is too short to be miserable, and that sometimes ex-spouses DO make good friends even if they suck as relationship partners, and every divorce doesn’t necessarily end in animosity. What’s annoying about these idiots is that hundreds of people could’ve told them that kids were going to rock their worlds because plenty of us called it the second she got pregnant with CC.

That’s what lack of self awareness will do. I think he expected her to grow into motherhood and she expected him to be semi retired and home all day helping, and neither was mature and self aware enough to really think through and discuss what bringing kids into the picture was going to do to their relationship.