DemandingRespectBecauseShesDonsRejectLikeJen Pt 238

grilledcheesesandwiches

Posted on 4/5/2021, 11:06

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QUOTE (pinksims @ 4/5/2021, 09:25)

She needs to stop blaming Don (who she is apparently super friends with!) and take responsibility for her own life. I don't like who I was in my first marriage either, but I take responsibility for how I acted in it. I also learnt from it and tried to improve as a person.

It's no wonder Jen is so damned angry all the time. The kid's schedule means she practically has to see Don every single day for drop off or pick up. Not only is that scheule terrible for the kids, but it's not ideal for the parents either. If I had to see my ex husband every day despite divorcing him I would find that very stressful.

Wouldn’t it be that the school is the buffer?

IE, they wake up at Jen’s on a Monday, she does school drop off. Don/Em/Suz do pick up and they sleep at Dons.
They wake up on Tuesday at Don’s, he does school drop off, and Jen picks them up.

Apart from potentially the weekend handover, I don’t see how they’d be seeing each other regularly?

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 12:19

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QUOTE (grilledcheesesandwiches @ 4/5/2021, 12:06)

QUOTE (pinksims @ 4/5/2021, 09:25)

She needs to stop blaming Don (who she is apparently super friends with!) and take responsibility for her own life. I don't like who I was in my first marriage either, but I take responsibility for how I acted in it. I also learnt from it and tried to improve as a person.

It's no wonder Jen is so damned angry all the time. The kid's schedule means she practically has to see Don every single day for drop off or pick up. Not only is that scheule terrible for the kids, but it's not ideal for the parents either. If I had to see my ex husband every day despite divorcing him I would find that very stressful.

Wouldn’t it be that the school is the buffer?

IE, they wake up at Jen’s on a Monday, she does school drop off. Don/Em/Suz do pick up and they sleep at Dons.
They wake up on Tuesday at Don’s, he does school drop off, and Jen picks them up.

Apart from potentially the weekend handover, I don’t see how they’d be seeing each other regularly?

I've no idea! She doesn't share anything lol!

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 14:09

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When she talks about never betraying her body, I think she is just talking about her weight.
She binges on sugary treats because she is addicted. She then purges in several different ways- exercise etc.

In her mind she justifies this as doing it for “other people” that judge her for the way she looks. No Jen, its all you. Get help.

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 14:12

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QUOTE (pinksims @ 5/4/2021, 03:25 AM)

I don't like who I was in my first marriage either, but I take responsibility for how I acted in it. I also learnt from it and tried to improve as a person.

I would have sooo much more respect for her if she came out and said something like this

I don't like the person that I was at times while married. this does not mean that I was unhappy at all times because I wasn't. but looking back at times I wasn't true to myself. for whatever reason I felt I needed to act a certain way. no one forced me to. it was my own doing...but I don't know I ever thought that and it's something I've been working through in therapy

there ya go Jen

or she could just not share any of this stuff but stop shitquoting and implying certain things too

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 14:17

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I was going to say that Jen looks so unfeminine lately but other people said it first and I really think labels are bad and all .. BUT doesn't she EVER want to look pretty and girly and ....(soft?) Or is that caging? Doesn't she want for herself to look soft but underneath know she can kick ass? THAT would be my goal.

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 14:25

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What possesses her to post weird pictures of herself.?
It’s all been pictures of her looking at herself in the mirror for months!

Is there a name for that?
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Narcissism

You rang?

QUOTE (grilledcheesesandwiches @ 4/5/2021, 12:06)

QUOTE (pinksims @ 4/5/2021, 09:25)

She needs to stop blaming Don (who she is apparently super friends with!) and take responsibility for her own life. I don't like who I was in my first marriage either, but I take responsibility for how I acted in it. I also learnt from it and tried to improve as a person.

It's no wonder Jen is so damned angry all the time. The kid's schedule means she practically has to see Don every single day for drop off or pick up. Not only is that scheule terrible for the kids, but it's not ideal for the parents either. If I had to see my ex husband every day despite divorcing him I would find that very stressful.

Wouldn’t it be that the school is the buffer?

IE, they wake up at Jen’s on a Monday, she does school drop off. Don/Em/Suz do pick up and they sleep at Dons.
They wake up on Tuesday at Don’s, he does school drop off, and Jen picks them up.

Apart from potentially the weekend handover, I don’t see how they’d be seeing each other regularly?

Are we sure she doesn’t pick the kids up every day from school, and Don collects them after work when he has them for the night? Thats’s a very common arrangement when dad works full time and mom is a SAHM.

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 14:40

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QUOTE (Meow2 @ 4/5/2021, 15:12)

QUOTE (pinksims @ 5/4/2021, 03:25 AM)

I don't like who I was in my first marriage either, but I take responsibility for how I acted in it. I also learnt from it and tried to improve as a person.

I would have sooo much more respect for her if she came out and said something like this

I don't like the person that I was at times while married. this does not mean that I was unhappy at all times because I wasn't. but looking back at times I wasn't true to myself. for whatever reason I felt I needed to act a certain way. no one forced me to. it was my own doing...but I don't know I ever thought that and it's something I've been working through in therapy

This is exactly how I felt in my marriage too - like I couldn't speak up, like I had to go along with everything my ex-husband said, like I wasn't the best version of myself. But you know what? That's on ME. It was my confidence that needed building with some hard work, and that was my own work to do. Sure, the way he behaved didn't exactly fill me with confidence, but that's life - that's what being around other people is like. The only person who will stick up for you is YOU. Past a certain age it's your responsibility, not anyone else's. I'm sick and tired of people acting like the victim all the time, Jen included. They have a list of things that they carry around with them that other people did, and yet into their 40s the 'it's everyone's fault but mine' mentality continues on and their Professional Victimhood is used as a weapon against anyone who criticises them. Take some responsibility as an adult to have the life you want. Assert yourself. Stick up for yourself. It's not what happens to you, it's how you choose to approach the rest of your life. It's easier for Jen to sit around being the victim and blaming Don, acting like her million dollar lifestyle with no work was soooo hard for her. And she wonders why her viewers have lost sympathy?

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 14:57

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QUOTE (Narcissism101 @ 5/4/2021, 09:25 AM)

What possesses her to post weird pictures of herself.?
It’s all been pictures of her looking at herself in the mirror for months!

Is there a name for that?

Narcissism

You rang?

QUOTE (grilledcheesesandwiches @ 4/5/2021, 12:06)

Wouldn’t it be that the school is the buffer?

IE, they wake up at Jen’s on a Monday, she does school drop off. Don/Em/Suz do pick up and they sleep at Dons.
They wake up on Tuesday at Don’s, he does school drop off, and Jen picks them up.

Apart from potentially the weekend handover, I don’t see how they’d be seeing each other regularly?

Are we sure she doesn’t pick the kids up every day from school, and Don collects them after work when he has them for the night? Thats’s a very common arrangement when dad works full time and mom is a SAHM.
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It's been a while since I studied Greek mythology, but IIRC, Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water and basically pined away staring at himself. Jen gazing at herself adoringly in all of those selfies is the modern version of that story.

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 15:00

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QUOTE (parrothead1 @ 4/5/2021, 15:17)

I was going to say that Jen looks so unfeminine lately but other people said it first and I really think labels are bad and all .. BUT doesn't she EVER want to look pretty and girly and ....(soft?) Or is that caging? Doesn't she want for herself to look soft but underneath know she can kick ass? THAT would be my goal.

I went through that stage after my divorce where I just let myself go and told myself I don’t owe anyone pretty or soft. Which is true, but then I realized I missed being made up a little and feeling good. She seems to be in the rebellious stage currently. I bet this really doesn’t have anything to do with Don, but being shutdown/ignored by men in the dating word.

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Posted on 4/5/2021, 15:06

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