Wow, Mrs. Candor, thanks for sharing. There's a lot to unpack there, but I simply don't have the time or patience to address it all. The major things that jumped out at me were:

1. He stated he had 9 children and specifically said that they were all with the same woman. That is deception by omission. He came off as bragging that his children are all with one woman, which is NOT true. Tom, you have TEN children with TWO women. That is a fact.

2. It was disturbing how much he brought up porn. It is obviously a huge struggle for him and something he thinks about often. That would be a huge red flag for me.

Ironically, I watched an old chat of Andrea's this morning. She was talking about their work and financial history, and described a time when they had very little money and Tom was looking for a new job. He turned down many jobs, including one at a convenience store of some type that he and Andrea felt he could not take because the store sold porn and that was wrong. That's interesting.

It is shocking the lack of self-awareness Tom has, especially considering what a "deep thinker" he is.

Just the fact it was around Valentine's Day that he was showing a valentine that Andrea gave him taped to his computer shows he's not ready to move on. I'm telling him, there is a difference in accepting the love of a deceased wife but at some point, it's just disrespectful to post love letters all over the place if he has a new woman. I can say well if it doesn't bother the woman then that's ok but is it really? You can still have fond memories, talk about the person once in awhile, look at a photo album, but I would be highly uncomfortable if a man had love notes posted from his deceased wife around the place. If I were in the same shoes, I wouldn't do that to a person. I would stick it in a scrapbook.. if I needed to, I would look at it privately. Too much "backward" thinking (living in the past) is just not good. I would want my spouse to forward think with me and have appropriate times for grieving, remembering, or sharing. I guess what I'm saying is at some point you have to be WITH the new person. Is he really ready? I guess if someone has been in this situation they would know better than I do. I am only thinking of it from the situation of meeting a guy who is still reading love notes attached to a computer all the time. Would I really want to be apart of that? I would think he's not ready.
That was another thing that caught my eye, if he is still in a relationship then why did he also post on facebook a photo of his proposing to Andrea? Should you do that if you have a girlfriend? I don't know. It just kind of seems like that, the comment on that he shouldn't be in a pity party, and talking about trusting in God makes me think he's coping with something more than just missing Andrea. I think his bad relationships makes him miss Andrea even more bc he misses that special bond. And I really do feel that even though she did a lot for him and that he often seemed detached, that he really did have a strong bond with her and love her.

Listen very closely to the statements Claudia is making in the first 10ish seconds of the video. Fathead then starts talking over her to conceal the fact that Claudia is repeating some disturbing ass things he has likely been saying to her when the camera is off.

Who threatens to kick their four year old out of the house? Honestly he should kick all of them out of the house. Let Bethany finish raising them. It's sad to see that plenty of people care more deeply about the Mills children than the one living parent they have left. That's gotta feel like the ultimate failure in life. Because it really is. No wonder Mr Foot Spray has been so emotionally unstable lately.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=v6CcdxH41e0

Beginning of the bible live Tom says he canceled one of his jobs today last-minute, then he stares into the camera smirking saying he "had somethings he wanted to do". So he screwed a customer last minute and didn't do his job because he wanted to probably talk to his gf. Nice one.