Aside from the baby voice and the I’m-so-cute-I-mispronounce-everything attitude, she seemed so normal: clean, groomed, happy and almost pretty. Hard to believe it is the same person as the unkempt bitter hermit she has become. [/QUOTE]
This was the era when I was watching Jen regularly. It took a long time for me to notice what she was really like, there are clues but you don't spot them straight away. I found her videos almost aspirational when I first saw them
So basically concierge guests get to skip all the lines. Jen does not know how to deal with her children in situations like long queues. It stresses her out and she doesn't know how to handle it. So to her, it's probably the only way she figured to avoid moments like that.
She doesn't know how to deal with herself in long queues! There was always the magic hour then a few pre-booked rides and then back for poolside reading. The idea that (with or without Spaceman) she would have to wait with the masses was just untenable. Even Disney wasn't worth it to her!
I never really understood the teamaker - is it common in the us? I'm from the uk and I drink lots of tea at plenty of people's houses. I've never ever had anyone use anything except a kettle. In a hotel room I sometimes use a nespresso to make the hot water but I have never encountered anything more technical than that. How can you complicate tea to the extent that you need a maker?
(Anyone from the uk? My grandparents had a teasmaid which I loved as a child, do you think it's like that?)
Controversial point but I think they should have had children earlier. They could afford it and and weren't emotionally any more mature after they waited 10 years.
If they had children when Jen was 25 the upset to their lifestyle would have been less as they wouldn't have got so used to the constant travelling, meals out etc. Jen wouldn't have spent 10 years doing what she liked and be resentful of giving that up.
I'd still love to know what happened on the Irish trip when she came home early. I know they were being nice to her while the divorce was still going through but that moment feels like the beginning of the end for her Ross family lifestyle.
I think the 'mass exodus' of losing dons family hurt her more than losing don. All the healing that she talks about is related to that!
His family and their traditions were the basis of their life as a couple and gave the life emotional security. I've been listening to a book on whey Denmark was the happiest country to live in and traditions along with a strong shared identity is a big part of it. She lost both of those things and hasn't been able to get them back or make them herself.
It's the same in the birthday video, when she says she is 10 mins behind. Behind what?? Her day is her own to fritter away how she pleases. It's funny watching these videos as I found them aspirational at the time. Now I can see they're actually quite sad
I like the theory about the soup Kitchen weeks being different this year. It lines up - with my impression of Jen as a mother (totally unengaged) - her robot nature (expecting it to be the same as last year) - her sense of proportion about everything (in the same video she got literally giddy about a mail merge - there are no little events on this woman's life. Everything is ecstasy or tragedy) - because she's not over the divorce even a glimmer of bad news from d&t would make her smug (especially bad health as she's an athlete)
She always said how busy she was as the childless housewife of a semi retired obedient husband. A busy 🐝. Anything up from that and she's definitely going to think she's overwhelmed
This woman is who I want to be and she does intelligent and informative videos about having an intellectual life as a mother. I was watching yesterday and the whole discussion from 4.44 is just such a lesson for Jen (and all of us who want to avoid being Jen)
Just made it through the pizza video. I know we don't diagnose here but she isn't well.
How many rolls of the dough did she let Charlotte do compared to how many she did? How many times did she say 'it doesn't need to be perfectly circular'? Enough to make me completely twitchy and I was only watching. Those poor children!!
The pizza looked gross but I was expecting that, all her food looks disgusting. I wasn't expecting to see her more comfortable interacting with the camera than her children
when she said 'bills and filing' I don't think for a second she was paying important items such as taxes or investments. I'm sure she did no family budgeting at all!
Jen over complicates everything so it's most likely she was writing a cheque to pay off her target / nordstroms/ Henry bender card from her allowance account.
The filing always reminded me of the post office set I had as a child when you could have good fun shuffling paper and stamping things. It was a overly complex system of a woman child, not an 'efficient because I do this job regularly and need to find important things' system of a wife and mother in a hurry
She claimed to have made the necklace. She used all these unnecessary flowery asshole words to let everyone know it was a Pearl previously belonging to her beloved grandma and how she loves that it’s close to her heart all day.
The grandma she didn't visit for years and years. The grandma she didn't bother to introduce her children to. The grandma she set aside to go to Disneyland instead when she was in Cali. The grandma who probably left her some extra money for Jen's nest egg when she died. That grandma. Beloved, schmeloved.
It's Jen - her grandma has become more beloved since leaving her the money. People have $ on their head for her and now she's become sentimental about Grandma
A little off topic, but I loved the new Netflix production of “Persuasion.” Definitely worth watching for the humorous depiction of Mary, the narcissistic “empath” sister of the main character, Anne. Might remind you of someone - especially when she abandons her injured son instead of caring for him herself.
I was coming on to mention this! Just watched it on a plane and had serious Jen vibes. Mary is also awful to her Hmong suffering husband too
