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| If you do not conflate your sense of self with how many things you have (ie, I am good if I have a lot) then it is very easy to sort through your old belongings and give them away. You imagine how people will use them or find them to repurpose. I just saw on TikTok a woman make "sea glass" in a rock tumbler using smashed up glasses from Goodwill. People will use your stuff and you get to momentarily feel like a good person.
She's said she likes to imagine scenarios in her head. Think of the poor mother whose stroller is broken but still tries to make it work. She sees yours on sale at Goodwill and it feels like a god send. You know longer feel like a useless consumer. Everybody wins. |
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| | I have said it before and I'll say it again. Jen, or anyone suffering with day-to-day tasks and responsibilities. Get on an SSRI. You can get Lexapro 100% online with no doctor visit via apps like hers or lemonaid health. It will change your life. |
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| | Looking at her recent pics posted here I will just say, please consider SSRIs. |
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| | I had to make a video of myself speaking about why I volunteer for a particular organization and encouraging others to do so. And I have decided that sitting down to film yourself and your life, and edit it, is all the proof I need that Jen is a narcissist. |
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| | I volunteer to help share or organize the share tree! |
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| QUOTE (Pelotongirl12 @ 3/25/2022, 12:27 AM) I have a question. So I gather from what I read here that she indicated that she does not wear makeup or nice cloths anymore because Don made her to doll up to fulfill certain housewife image and now she is free. But then why she is wearing make up in divorce announcement and even Q&A after that? That time Don was already out and no longer controlled her. She is wearing dark lipstick and is more put together immediately after divorce announcement than actually now, 2 years after divorce when Don already got settled. Generally you are most devastated when you are going through the divorce/first state of deoa ration when you get certain divorce is inevitable. She wears make up tgen and looks perkier and less troubled tgen than now. I don’t get it!
To be totally fair, we don't know that Don "made" her doll up. We don't know what happens behind closed doors, even in the Ross household when she vlogged daily.
We do know some things for sure. She has always (based on photos she shared of her as a teen and into her twenties) had more of a tom boy/sporty look with some very youthful elements (like pigtails and bows) and was dressing like that when she started youtube and had been married to Don for some years. There are lots and lots of vlogs of her in sporty/athletic clothes. There are also a few instances of her dressing very age and body appropriately.
There was a period when youtube makeup gurus were a big deal and Jen tried to emulate them by wearing more makeup and detailing every part of her outfit, jewelry, and makeup. Her natural inclination to dress youthful/childlike resulted in a weird mix of preppy and babydoll dresses but she did put in significant effort. She also mixed new/higher end pieces with things like shoes and jewelry she had from high school.
I think it was more her trying out new personas or trying to look like a housewife than Don actually controlling her image. He may have complimented her more on the dressier things and we do know he liked her to wear fancy shoes (  ) and bought her lots of sort of middle of the road high end items like LV bags and Tiffany jewelry (what I would call shopping mall bougie).
The real fact is she doesn't have a strong sense of personal style so she changes her appearance based on who she finds likable/desirable. And she is likely suffering from some mental health struggles which prohibits her from putting a lot of effort into her appearance right now (toeing the line of diagnosing but I think we all see the writing on the wall here) |
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| QUOTE (Bunion of Fury @ 3/19/2022, 02:40 AM) If Jen attends the wedding, will she wear Tensleigh Blue?
She will wear a peloton sweatshirt over an old navy dress and her disney crocs with her air dried hair blowing in the wind |
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| | I wonder what old Bean Bunny thinks of the new teddy bear pillow? is Bean Bunny wintering due to this news? maybe booking a deer stand style airbnb to explore? |
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| QUOTE (SmoothiesLikeLily @ 3/19/2022, 02:18 AM) Sometimes, all you gotta do is know what the guy likes & then do that thing every now & then.
I’m looking at you & your killer heels, Tensleigh.
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| | Do you think the pic is from a courthouse style elopement/ceremony? |
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| | I don't know anything about Don's new life or his new wife. But I will say that this all seems fun, happy, and light hearted. Like they really just want to celebrate and they really just are in love. |
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| "of course the kids can have one if they like mine"
hahahahaha oh you selfish cow. This is not how devoted mothers speak. They say "I can't wait to show my kids this! They will love it! And they can each pick out their own pillow for our upcoming trips" |
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| QUOTE (DonsiPad @ 3/11/2022, 07:33 PM) All the betrayal talk makes me think that either Don promised he wasn’t going to remarry, or Jen was completely blindsided by basically his overnight engagement, wedding, and mansion. I wonder if she had no idea Tens existed or maybe Jen thought it wasn’t so serious.
My thoughts on the betrayal are that Jen once again, in classic Jen fashion, misunderstood a relationship. She thought the Rosses would continue to treat her the same after the divorce and in spite of a new significant other for Don. She thought they were her forever family and they may have said as much in the context of, "You are our grandchildren's mother and we will always consider you family" which is much different than "nothing will change."
When Don had a new relationship, of course they welcomed her with open arms. It is the only appropriate thing to do. It is wrong to make a new girlfriend share a vacation home with the ex-wife. They were always going to pick Don and Tens. Don may have even put his foot down like, do not invite her to these parties.
I think the big betrayal is the Rosses choosing Tens over her. In her eyes they betrayed her by liking/welcoming a new woman into their lives. |
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| Thanks all for the kind words on my life advice to Jen. Truthfully a lot of it is born out of my own experience as a SAHM over the last two years.
When the pandemic "started" I was a newly minted SAHM with one baby and in the blink of an eye it is two years later, I have a 2.5 year old and a 15 mo old (conceived, carried, and born during a global pandemic). Nothing in my life is the same as it was before, for mostly better but some for worse.
So in some ways I understand Jen's feelings of uncertainty and not knowing where you fit in the world, especially after a divorce. What I don't understand and cannot forgive is not throwing yourself wholeheartedly into the care of your children. Are they in therapy? Do they have a safe person to talk to about all the changes in their lives - divorce, new houses, new siblings, pandemic, etc?
I do not mean "setting yourself on fire to keep others warm" or not "choosing you" but I mean - as the saying goes - get all your ducks in a row. Then work on yourself. |
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